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Please help me welcome Martin Haworth\u00a0to Writer\u2019s Fun Zone\u00a0as he shares with us \u201cOvercoming Criticism.\u201d Enjoy!<\/em><\/p>\n ***<\/p>\n I was born in a decade where stability was the success measure in our lives and because of this<\/strong>, throughout my career and at home, any hint of criticism \u2013 even when there wasn\u2019t any proof of it \u2013 has permeated my adult life, to some extent.<\/p>\n My parents experienced the Second World War first hand. My father being just young enough to actually serve, and my mother – a little younger – recalled how the sky at night lit up as bombs rained down on the industries of Manchester, England.<\/p>\n So, for my three siblings and me<\/strong>, success meant university and the goal of a secure job for life. We were expected to be successful at school and \u2018told off\u2019 if we did not achieve it.<\/p>\n And that criticism was uncomfortable. I didn\u2019t like it at all. And over the years I came to resist it, resent it, and become sensitized to even a hint of criticism directed towards me.<\/p>\n When I feel criticised,<\/strong> I have to work hard to overcome the feelings inside me. Otherwise, there can be consequences. As examples, I can give up the task at hand; I can get angry, with myself and others; I might even overreact and thrash out (metaphorically, not physically); and, above all, to reinforce the sense of unworthiness, \u00a0I can feel disappointed in myself.<\/p>\n I have had to teach myself to be more robust and less sensitive and to appreciate two things. Firstly, that unfair criticism is often about them and not me. And secondly, it doesn\u2019t really matter, in the big scheme of things. It really doesn\u2019t.<\/p>\n In 2001, I left management in the corporate world to build a coaching and training business as a second career.<\/strong> In hindsight, I realize it took me away from criticism from insensitive bosses, to a world where it mattered less, for I was my own boss.<\/p>\n In around October 2004, I began writing. I wrote a whole management development website, with over 40 topics from scratch.<\/p>\n I had never written anything before.<\/strong><\/p>\n Later that year, I wrote over 400 management articles. I wrote quickly, edited little, and put my stuff out there. Those articles have been read over 600,000 times, and I have never had a single criticism.<\/p>\n The opinions I shared, I truly believed, and I decided I had an obligation to share my thoughts for they might make a difference to someone.<\/p>\n And I really enjoyed it!<\/strong><\/p>\n I still share my thoughts to my several thousand followers on Twitter too, with my tweets designed to stimulate thinking in those who read them.<\/p>\n I have now turned to fiction writing, which has again required me to set aside my fear of criticism.<\/p>\n Last year, I wrote two novellas of around 25,000 words each,<\/strong> simply by sitting down for an hour or two each morning and seeing where the initial idea took me. I found myself an inexpensive editor who, perhaps sensing the need for kid gloves, was gentle with her feedback and yet also honest with me about my work.<\/p>\n Then I did nothing. Though I truly enjoyed the writing and the pleasure of seeing where my story led, I was not so keen on the grind of rewriting.<\/p>\n Which brings me to where I am now.<\/strong><\/p>\n There is an itch that I have to scratch in my fiction writing. NaNoWriMo (an online challenge to write 50,000 words in November) took me 15 days to complete \u2013 I did 62,000 words by that point in the month – and I now have the bones of a novel on my hands.<\/p>\n
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Martin Haworth is a coach, trainer and would-be fiction author with a manuscript that \u2018needs work.\u2019 He lives in Gloucester, England and has two grown up kids and three grandchildren. He loves walking, travel, and supporting Burnley Football Club. Check out his website at